Body Image and Sexual Satisfaction

What the research shows

Reviews of the research find that people who feel more satisfied with and appreciative of their bodies tend to report more positive sexual experiences. The link has been studied most in women, but it appears across genders.

Body dissatisfaction is common across sexual orientations. A large study found gay men were more likely than heterosexual men to feel unhappy with their bodies.

Why it matters: getting stuck in your head

Worrying about how you look during sex can pull attention away from sensation and connection. In one study, women who were more distracted by appearance concerns during intimacy reported lower sexual satisfaction and less consistent orgasm.

Small steps that help

• Focus on what your body feels and does, not only how it looks.
• Notice harsh self-talk and try speaking to yourself as you would to someone you love.
• Tell your partner what you appreciate about them, specifically and often.
• Never joke about or criticise a partner's body.
• Adjust the setting so you feel comfortable, whether that means lighting, clothing, or position.
• If body image concerns are causing real distress or affecting eating, talk to a doctor or therapist.