Pillow Lift

A variation of the classic face-to-face position with a firm pillow or cushion placed under the hips of the partner lying down. A tiny change that many couples find makes a big difference in comfort.

How it feels

Relaxed and supported, with less effort needed from both partners.

Comfort tips

• Use a firm pillow or a folded blanket; very soft pillows flatten quickly.
• Try different heights until it feels right for both of you.

Talk about it

Agree before you start that adjusting the pillow mid-way is normal, not a mood-killer.

Take care

• Stop and readjust if the lower back of the partner below starts to ache.